The Expected Utility property is not a property that depends on the functional form of the utility function. Its existence depends on satisfying certain "axioms" (which would be more acurately be described as "conditions"), that have to do with preferences/behavior of human beings. They may be given a strict mathematical expression (which is good), but they have to do with preferences, i.e. before any functional form for the utility function is specified. Let's see what that means.
In a comment the OP wrote
"...if x, y, and z are three fixed elements of A, then the quantity $[u(x) - u(y)]/[u(y) - u(z)]$ varies from person to person (among people
who satisfy the vNM axioms), but it does not vary among different vNM
utility functions for the same person. So this quantity conveys
something specific to a person."
It does.
Quoting from Jehle & Renyi (2011) "Advanced Microeconomic Theory" (3d ed), ch. 2 p. 108
"We conclude that the ratio of utility differences has inherent meaning regarding the individual’s preferences and they must take on
the same value for every VNM utility representation of (the weak
preference relation). Therefore, VNM utility representations provide
distinctly more than ordinal information about the decision maker’s
preferences, for otherwise, through suitable monotone transformations,
such ratios could assume many different values."
In their example just before the quote they show that
$$\frac {[u(x) - u(y)]}{[u(y) - u(z)]} = \frac {1-\alpha}{\alpha}$$
where $\alpha$ is a probability that reflects the preferences that we are modelling. Quote again (p. 107)
"Note well that the probability number $\alpha$ is determined by, and is a reflection of, the decision maker’s preferences. It is a
meaningful number. One cannot double it, add a constant to it, or
transform it in any way without also changing the preferences with
which it is associated."
And $(1-\alpha)/\alpha$ is an odds (not "odds ratio").
So here you are: a vNM utility function is associated with the odds that can characterize a person's preferences.
ADDENDUM
After an interesting but too lengthy exchange of opinions and thoughts in the comments with the OP, I decided to enhance this answer with an example, in order to show that in the context of the specific theory of preferences we are discussing, "preference intensity" (as is informally discussed here) cannot be dissociated from "attitude towards risk" -they are inextricably linked.
Assume that an individual declares (as he has every right to): "My preferences are monotonic and I prefer more to less. Moreover, the next five euros will give me exactly the same utility as the five after them". Note that this is the individual speaking -we cannot question him by whether utility can be cardinal or not etc. Starting from zero for convenience, we symbolize his statement as
$$u(10) - u(5) = u(5) - u(0) \implies u(5) = \frac 12 u(0) + \frac 12 u(10) \tag {1}$$
In the context of the discussion with the OP, this is a statement about "preference intensity".
Next we present to this individual the following choice: he can either get $5$ euros, or he can participate to a gamble $G$ where he will get $0$ euros with probability $1/2$ or $10$ euros with probability $1/2$. The individual then declares that he strictly prefers to get the $5$ euros with certainty.
This is a statement revealing "attitude towards risk".
Question: Can the preferences of this individual, as described by his two statements, be represented by a utility function that possesses the Expected Utility Property?
Answer: No.
Proof: By his second statement, the individual revealed that the Certainty Equivalent of the gamble $CE_G$ is strictly less than $5$ euros:
Therefore we have that
$$E[u(G)] = u(CE_G) < u(5) \tag{2}$$
Now for the Expected Utility property to hold, it must be the case that
$$u[G;p(G)] = E[u(G)] = \frac 12 u(0) + \frac 12 u(10) \tag{3}$$
Due to $(2)$ (which expresses the "attitude towards risk" of the individual) we have that
$$(2), (3) \implies \frac 12 u(0) + \frac 12 u(10) < u(5) \tag {4}$$
But this contradicts $(1)$, which expresses "preference intensity" of the individual.
So we conclude that an individual whose preferences are described by the above statements cannot be represented by a utility function that possesses the Expected Utility Property.
In other words, for the Expected Utility property to hold, "attitude towards risk" cannot be dissociated from "preference intensity". If the individual had declared that he was indifferent between the $5$ certain euros and the gamble $G$, then his preferences could be represented by a utility function that had the EU property. But in order to achieve that, we had to "align" the "attitude towards risk" with "preference intensity".